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with your help we'll keep telling more. so call the number on your screen and support this station right now. thanks to those of you who have called. to the rest of you now is a great time. terri? >> if you don't have a box of kleenex handy i urge you to get one because in our next segment we're going to see more presentations of quilts. we saw one. marianne, you presented the quilt for your veteran. that was such a touching touching part of the program. dan collins is a vietnam vet. he's my same age. he lives here in the des moines area. it was a great honor to be able to present him with valiant eagle. he loaned it to us for today. >> so that's the quilt -- >> that's the quilt. i found that these quilts work their magic, as we saw with the veterans that were interviewed in the second segment -- or was it this segment? the quilts work magic because this combat veteran sees them and they know every time they see this quilt that a civilian has recognized them. you're not exactly -- you are a civilian. i am, yes.
>> that was so touching when he said how much it meant that a civilian made this. >> it meant more than a medal on a chest. >> we saw the picture of someone wrapped up in it and it's like a constant hug or a hug anytime you put that on. it's the time that's invested and the love that's invested. i know we're going to see coming up in this next segment the presentation of your quilt. >> which is going to be very hard to watch. i've spent a lot of time crying watching the different segments and they're very emotional. so i would be ready to cry. >> i think that's a reason to call and pledge for the dvd because there's many many lessons in this program about giving about patriotism, about the importance of saying thank you, and the lesson about public service. those are just a few of the lessons that we learn in this wonderful dvd. call and pledge to this public television station so we can continue bringing you these kind of enriching programs and let us thank you in some of the
ways that jennifer is going to tell you about right now. >> if you can call and pledge a dollar a day to this station, we will thank your generosity by sending you a great combination gift that includes the dvd of this program, a pattern instruction booklet that has three quilts that were featured in the program plus fabric and everything you need to make a split rail fence quilt. you'll also receive quilts of valor fabric labels to allow you to show off what you've done and have your name permanently attached to your special gift for a wounded warrior. all of this comes your way for a dollar a day investment in this station. at the $250 level of investment, you can have the split rail fence quilt kit. this is a great way for you to make your own. everything you need -- the fabric will be patriotic. it might be what you see or a little different, but it will be quality fabric that is of patriotic nature -- bright, fun and celebratory -- and patriotic of the work that is going into it and the work that it is recognizing. at a $250 investment to this station,
we'll send everything to make that split rail fence quilt. at the $90 level of investment you can receive the dvd of this program which as heather mentioned a moment ago it does bring tears to your eyes. those are tears of pride as much as tears of sadness because we're proud to be part of something like this program. we're proud to be part of public television. when you call and pledge $90 you're part of public television too. you're investing in this service, and you can be proud of that investment. we'll also send you the pattern instruction booklet so you can make the three quilts that you see on the dvd. that comes your way for a $90 investment in the station. at the $50 level of investment for a $50 pledge, we will send you a set of eight quilts of valor fabric labels. there are four team labels and four individual labels so that you can make up to eight quilts and put all of your information right on there. more importantly, put the name of the wounded warrior who will receive your very generous gift. call the number on your screen right now and tell us to keep up the good work.
also tell us to keep bringing stories like this into your home. terri? >> we are looking forward to the very touching part of the program coming up, where we're going to see the presentations of the very quilts that our three rookies made. one of those rookies is back with us, mary lou metzger. how was it determined which veteran would receive your quilt? >> actually there was a quilt shop not far from where i live, and the woman that owned the shop knew this gentleman. his name was lee. leeland, he was my corporal. he was wonderful. he was there in iwo jima. he was wounded in iwo jima and he was there when they raised the flag. he was just a kid and he was so excited to get it. >> what did it feel like for you? >> it felt like we'd come full circle on this project. we started with just an idea of creating something wonderful. then seeing how it affects the people that actually receive the quilts is the most touching part of all. >> absolutely. marianne, you mentioned that
they don't always stay in the united states. >> the presentations we're seeing here -- the ones i've been involved in are one-on-one. often they are one-on-one, but it's important to know that quilts of valor many quilts are shipped to germany, to the hospital the airbase there where the wounded from iraq and afghanistan are airlifted. so they have quilts on their beds when they come there and they bring those quilts home with them. i've even seen the huge planes that bring them, medical planes, and they have quilts there. of course, we saw the quilts being delivered to the hospital at fort sam houston in san antonio. they're given in many ways and one-on-one is a great way. i always tell my veteran i'll make you another one. >> i'm on -- i'm with you on that one, marianne. >> it's such an inspiring program both quilts of valor and the program this public television station is bringing to you. we want to thank everyone who has called because your dollars make this kind of inspiration possible. now we are going to see the very moving presentations
of our rookies' quilts of valor to their veterans. >> they give so much all the time our veterans. they defend us. they go in with such open hearts and such wonderful intentions. the chance to say thank you, they should hear it all the time every day. hello. hello, mary lou. are you corporal samuel leeland anderson? i sure am. i'm mary lou metzger. so good to see you. can i call you lee? yes, i would rather be called lee. that what i grew up as. i understand that you're a veteran that was wounded at iwo jima. yes. that's a long time ago.
yeah, a long time ago. i was there 21 days. i've got no battle scars. i just got blast concussion, but it got me off the island. when i got wounded a man stepped on a land mine right behind me. he lost his life. i was down low. the shrapnel went over my head. i lucked out. i lucked out. there's no way in the world that i could ever say thank you. just being here, that's enough. there is a wonderful lady who had an idea about seeing that each of our combat veterans got a handmade quilt to let you know that you're still loved and thought about. so, lee, this is for you. well, thank you. i appreciate it. should we open and see what it looks like? yes. it's a keepsake for me for the rest of my life. it's something i will cherish, and i really enjoyed it. very nice. stars and stripes. it
is. whoever got the idea i appreciate it. i will cherish it all my life. let's climb under. just remember when it keeps you warm, there's also lots of love and gratitude to go with it. thank you. thank you. >> i am here in council bluffs to present my quilt to a soldier that was wounded during my husband's last deployment. >> to be awarded this quilt of valor, it means a lot to me. i know it's going to mean a lot to my family also. >> when i made this quilt, i was hoping nick would be the person i would give it to. i really wanted to make it for someone who i knew. i'm very excited and honored to be able to give you the quilt that i made. i've never made a quilt before so i hope you like it. i'm sure i will.
oh, wow. i'm pretty sure i'll be able to sleep in this thing. just so you know the binding is hand stitched and it took me five hours. there is quite a lot that goes into a quilt. this is really nice. my wife will give me a hard time. every time i sit down and pull a blanket over me. i fall asleep right away. >> one of the reasons i volunteered to help was i was very excited to be able to give back somehow. i want to say thank you for doing this. it does mean a lot to me. i know what i did, it's part of my job. it's what i volunteered to do. it does mean a lot knowing so many people back home support us in what we're doing overseas. more onto that the soldiers who get injured, it's an honor to get something like this,
knowing you spent a lot of your own personal time and put that in for something for me. it means a lot to me and my family. we appreciate it. thank you. >> he had to fight for his life. i think that will is really important. i'm glad to be able to present a piece of comfort to a young man that stood up for our country. i was surprised when i heard about it. i was like who is this first off. and a quilt of valor? i didn't know what it was. the opportunity to meet dan gable it didn't matter what it was. it's something you don't get asked every day. this is my man. dustin? yeah. dan gable. nice to meet you. nice to meet you. this quilts of valor they have a thing they started quite a while ago that they give these -- they have these quilts made by people like me or other people as well. i didn't really know how to do it
but i got coached; i had a great coach. i know about great coaches. but i spent a full eight hours, which that's quite a bit for a guy like me to sit down and do some sewing and do some quilting. it was well worth it. i jumped at the chance for a couple reasons. i know that we've had a lot of wrestlers that have been there and a lot of them have stood up and fought for freedom for america and for a lot of people that are back home. i really feel for this. i was really glad to find someone like yourself to be associated to be able to present this quilt. this quilt it's something that -- i guess we're big tough guys; we're in the service and we're wrestlers. sometimes when we like to relax a little -- i'm really proud to be here for this.
thank you. if wrestling wouldn't have worked out you could've been a hell of a quilter. dan gable as a person and wrestler, everybody looks up to him. that's the wrestler everybody strives to be. the fact that he made a quilt himself is really neat. i just want you to know i tried it out a couple times. don't tell anybody. it works pretty good. all right. i've been under this baby.
>> if it weren't for dan gable's sense of humor i'd be a blathering idiot right now. what an amazing program. as someone said, sometimes words just aren't enough. they aren't the way to say thank you, but a quilt of valor is, as we've seen in this public television special. if you've been moved and inspired whether you're a quilter or not, call now and make a pledge of financial support to this public television network for bringing you this remarkable experience and telling you a story that needed to be told, and told in such a quality and respectful way. your dollars make that possible. let us share with you this story in a way that you can enjoy it anytime you'd like. if you can invest at the $90 level, we will thank you with your own personal dvd copy of this quilts of valor special. there's additional material on the dvd than what we've brought you today. in addition to that, we will send
you the patterns of those three stunning quilts that we saw those rookies create during the special. marianne fons is here. the founder of quilts of valor, catherine roberts, is here. tell us first of all about the patterns because we want people to call and pledge. >> the patterns, all the instructions the yardage requirements for all three of the quilts, plus my valiant eagle quilt is there. there's also something we haven't mentioned which is an interview that catherine herself produced with a vietnam veteran dorsey winfrey. it's a wonderful story of a man who was wounded in vietnam. he also says this is the first time in forty years anyone said thank you. i think you conducted that interview yourself with dorsey winfrey. i've watched that many times; it's great. >> what a way to say thank you, with a quilt. >> it is a way to say thank you with a quilt. anyone out there can be a rookie. >> if you're not a quilter but you'd love to do this incredibly rewarding project -- marianne, you said earlier quilters are nice people
i bet you could find a quote at your local quilting shop or quilting club. >> i think there are 300 quilt shops in the country that are official under our wings quilt shops, and they understand how under our wings works and they will pair a nonquilter with a quilter to make a quilt of valor. i think the dvd is something that people will want to watch repeatedly and thoughtfully and share with others who would like to see the story because it is a unique story, the kind of story public television offers us. it's the kind of story you make possible with your generosity so we hope you'll call this public television station right now. let's remind you about all the ways we have to say thank you to you when you call and make that pledge. jennifer? >> i think about giving a quilt of valor as a way to show your appreciation to service in a way that you can't otherwise show. i'm trying to imagine giving a quilt of valor and then sitting down and showing this program to the wounded warrior as a way to say
this is what inspired me, this is what made me want to do this. that kind of inspiration that kind of motivation is what public television does best and, frankly, what only public television does. that's why it's unique and why it's important you invest in this station right now because this is the kind of programming that you make possible. i can guarantee you commercial television doesn't do this kind of thing, doesn't tell this kind of story, and doesn't ask for you to be a part of this remarkable organization. that's what we're doing right now. we're asking you to invest a dollar a day in the network that brings you this kind of outstanding inspiration, a dollar a day in this public television station. you'll receive the program and all you need to make a split rail fence quilt. so you can make the quilt and then watch the program with your recipient, perhaps and maybe sew the labels on that come with this. you can include those on your quilt and you can also make additional quilts with that
quilts of valor pattern instruction booklet. so you'll be able to really have a full experience with quilts of valor give one of your own or more and also show what inspired you. think about the fact that every time someone turns on this station, you're helping them to become inspired too. you don't even know what kind of inspiration can happen. you don't even know what kind of impact you can have when you invest right now in this station. but when you call and pledge at that $365 level i can guarantee you, you are making a difference. you're also making a difference when you pledge $250 to this station because every member matters and every dollar counts. we are grateful for those $250 pledges. we'd be happy to send you the split rail fence quilt kit. you'll receive some beautiful fabric. it will be either this or a lot like what you see on your screen. you'll also receive instructions so that you can make the split rail fence quilt. that is yours for a $250 investment in this station right now
when you call the number on your screen as so many others are doing right now. it's so heartwarming to hear the phones ring. at the $90 level of investment we'll be happy to send, as terri mentioned this program. it's a wonderful program to watch with veterans. it's a wonderful program to watch with kids to show them how you can make a difference. it's a great program to watch together as a family. you also receive the patterns that you are able to see -- to make the quilts that you see in this program. so those come your way as our way of thanking you for investing $90 in this station in these stories right now when you call the number on your screen. at the $50 level of investment we'd be happy to send you a way to put your own trademark on your quilts, to your own stamp on your quilts. eight labels -- so you have eight quilts to make when you pledge $50. you'll get four individual and four team quilts. this is a way -- this isn't just any quilt. this is a quilt of valor that i am giving to you as a gift, and it has your name on it. more importantly it has their name on it.
when they receive their quilt, it's forever marked because of these labels. so for a $50 investment in this station we're going to send you eight labels you can sew on. you've got some work to do; you've got eight quilts to make. we know those quilts will make a big impact in the lives of those who receive them and their families. we also know that your investment in this station will make a big impact in the lives of everyone who watches. there are people out there right now who can't call who can't invest and we understand that. that's why we're asking, if you can to step up and do your part because you're not just giving to this station, you're giving to the people who watch this station because they're able to continue to enjoy public television programming thanks to you. it's that kind of paying it forward -- it's this kind of selfless giving that the program celebrates and that we celebrate on public television as we thank you for your very generous investments. we're going to head back now over to terri hale. >> there are 3 to 4 million living combat veterans
that are waiting for their quilt of valor. now, 60,000 have received them but i'm just thinking that marianne and catherine this public television special, as it hits across the country, will inspire, we hope, more quilters to go out there and honor those veterans. so your dollars right now is really a show of support for the veterans in your life and the quilters who made it possible for them to be honored in such a special way. i hope you'll call right now and make more of these wonderful programs possible. even if you're not -- every phone is filled up. that's a great show of support. even if you're not a quilter it's important to pledge. >> absolutely. >> it is. >> absolutely. >> wouldn't you love to see all those veterans receive a quilt? >> absolutely! i would like to see everyone get involved no matter what you can do. the easiest thing is just pick up that phone and support this station. >> this is really the final time we'll be talking to you about these very special thank gifts around the quilts of valor program. marianne, we haven't talked to you much about that dollar-a-day gift, where you get
everything. that's my favorite. tell us about it. >> i think even if you don't watch public television every single day if you watch several times a week you know, a dollar a day is not much to say thank you for the great programming. mark and i were watching a program about the tsunami a year ago and it was fascinating. very little interruption. it's a fantastic service. you spend more on coffee at the coffee shop in a month than you could spend to support public television. it's a great bang for a dollar - a bang for your buck and it's voluntary. >> it's voluntary and it's public service. you're supporting a public television network that truly is a public service for everybody who can watch it. they don't have to pay anything to watch public television, but we wouldn't be here without viewer dollars. >> it's a free country. i think public television is part of that. you're free to contribute. you're free to watch. i think it's great to kind of take the high road and make that phone call if you're watching
public television. you should do it. >> how could you not be called to national service after learning about quilts of valor, the organization that you created, catherine. >> yes, yes. well, i invite everyone to participate, everyone -- quilters and nonquilters. pick up the phone. >> the number you see on your screen, that's a very important phone call to make. we hope you are doing so right now and making that investment in your public television network. now we're going to go back over and hear from jennifer konfrst. >> this program celebrates people who took responsibility people who stood up and did the right thing. though giving to your public television station isn't anywhere near the kind of service and sacrifice that our service members have done on our behalf, it is one more way to celebrate what makes this country great. what makes the station great is our partnership the way we work together and take responsibility for the station that we value, the station we watch together. your participation joins with our
work and makes a wonderful partnership that celebrates the responsibility we all take to do our part. that's why we're asking you to call. that's why we're asking you to invest a dollar a day in this station. when you call and pledge at that $365 level, don't forget -- marianne talked about it a moment ago -- you'll receive everything you see on your screen, everything you need to make a split rail fence quilt, plus the dvd of this program plus the instruction booklet so you can make the quilts that you see in the program, plus fabric labels so you can give your very own quilts of valor. all of that comes your way for a $365 investment in this station right now when you call the number on your screen. a reminder at the $250 level you'll receive the split rail fence quilt kit. beautiful fabrics, patriotic fabrics, plus all the information you need to make that quilt. that's at the $250 level. then at the $90 level, you can have this program. this program is a great one to share. maybe donate it to your local library
and let them know this is the kind of story you want to help tell and that you help tell by giving to this station. you'll also receive the patterns at that $90 level. at the $50 pledge level, we will send you eight labels. these are fabric labels that give washing instructions and also give your stamp to show you made these quilts with your very own hands and with your very own heart. so call and pledge $50 and we'll send those your way as our way of thanking you. thank you for investing in quality television and thank you for investing and doing your part and taking responsibility for this remarkable station. terri? >> we have our veterans and our rookie quilters here with us, mary lou metzger and heather stephenson and of course, catherine roberts and marianne fons, we're so glad you joined us here today. i have a question for mary lou and heather. do you plan to quilt again either of you? >> i'm definitely going to do one. >> absolutely. it's too much fun. >> do you think you'll do another quilt of valor?
oh, probably. definitely. definitely. there was something so satisfying and just a tender, wonderful feeling about participating in that whole process and being able to say thank you to people who you don't get that opportunity to. >> it's hard to know how to thank someone for something like that. there aren't words. a quilt, which is such a wonderful american icon -- there's no better way to say thank you than with a quilt. >> have any of you connected with -- marianne, you've reconnected with your veteran. have any of you reconnected with the veterans you gave quilts to? >> i've seen my veteran a couple times, yes. has he talked about it? yes. we've actually taken a whole group of photos with the quilt every time we see each other. >> so you've developed a relationship. we know that you have a relationship with your public television network. that relationship is that you make the investments that makes outstanding programs like quilts of valor possible. this public television network listens to you when you make those investments and brings you more of
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already thinking "get on with it!" i know, okay? so let's explore 36 strategies in just 90 minutes. - 56. - what? - we only have 56 minutes. - i thought we had 90. - no, no. 90 minutes for lunch. - oh, thank goodness. i'm starvin'. - guys! - oh. - oh, yeah, okay. all right, all right. well, you know the two of us do this; we'll get it done three times faster. - oh, yeah, that makes sense. that's logic-- and who says a.d.h.d. people aren't good with time management, huh? - guys! - oh, okay. the first tip in mastering your a.d.h.d. is... - one, accept it. - once you obtain a reliable diagnosis, accept it. - this is a good news diagnosis. the bad news is when you don't know about it. so take this information and embrace it. - if you understand the way you're built and you understand the fact that you're built differently, the way you're built can be something important to you. if you don't understand it or you deny it and you don't want to deal with it,
it'll hurt you. - imagine instead of a.d.h.d., your doctor says "the blood work came back. you have diabetes." and you say, "oh, no, no, i don't. "i don't have diabetes. i can't have diabetes! "i don't have diabetes! i don't have diabetes! i don't have diabetes!" - see? it's not gonna go well, right? - what? - i said, "it's not gonna go well, right?" if you're in denial. you gotta get over it so you can get on with it. - oh, that's clever. that's very good. - we found the more a person learns about a.d.h.d., the more likely they are to accept it. and that brings us to... - tip number two, two, two! - educate yourself. - the biggest issue is education. it starts with educating everyone, and as physicians, we are constantly learning as well about new research what works, what doesn't work. - the key to it all is education what you're doing right now. and i urge you if you know someone who has it or you have it or a child learn more.
[record scratches] - okay, let's cover the basics. this is real. - a.d.h.d. actually is a neuro-developmental disorder that has to be addressed. - this is neurology, not morality. - we know from really serious research that brains in a.d.h.d. is different-- the volumes, you know, the structure of the brain but we also know that the biochemistry of the brain is different. the functioning of the brain is different. - it has two components. - one with the inattention class of symptoms, and one with the hyperactivity impulsivity class of symptoms. - and it falls on a spectrum. - people ask "you know, i--i forget things. "i lose things. doesn't everybody have a.d.d.?" and the answer is, "well, sorta kinda." but the people that diagnose are on the tail ends of the bell curve, very extreme.
it's like, how often do you lose your keys? how often do you forget things? that's the question to ask. - this is everywhere. - they come in all sizes all races, all languages all cultures all parts of the world and all religion. - and it's not some new thing. - this is a disorder that's been going around for hundreds of years. we have just not been able to peg it easily because the names keep changing, or we don't describe it very well. - it's not about willpower. - a.d.h.d. is not a condition of a lack of effort or trying or a moral defect. it's a neurobiological disorder, and it's not because people aren't trying hard enough. - it's hard to navigate with a brain that's not firing on all cylinders. you can't get activated. you can't sit still. you can't focus on command. - and you're not lazy. - people with a.d.d. work extraordinarily hard. people with a.d.d. are working their hearts out just to get through the day. - and, no, you're not stupid.
- contrary to popular belief most kids who have a.d.h.d. are of average or even high-average intelligence. - this runs in families. - if there is a child in the family with a.d.h.d., there's a 40% chance that one of the two parents will have a.d.h.d. - every time we ask the parent one or both the parents recognize the fact that they have similar symptoms. everything points to the fact there's a genetic problem. - it is genetic. - the first gene that was described was called drd 4.7. well, since that time, back in the late 1990s lots of genes have been described, typically of the dopamine type. - it often leads to secondary disorders. - when you live a life of people yelling at you all day by the time you get to adolescence and into adulthood it may look like somebody who has anxiety and depression. - it's difficult to diagnose. - we don't have a blood test. we don't have a brain test
that distinguishes these individuals from other people. it's really defined by a pattern of difficulties. - it is terribly impairing. - without a proper diagnosis a.d.d. can ruin your life. it can ruin your family, ruin your marriage ruin your childhood, and absolutely cause chaos. you can end up in jail. you can end up dead. you can end up in drugs. you can end up an addict. it can be devastating. - the good news: it's treatable. - with treatment, a.d.h.d. has tremendous outcomes. - when i started treating a.d.h.d. people, it was so rewarding, because they got better in a hurry. - this is a very very treatable condition and so if you seek treatment it makes a big difference. - right, education helps with a.d.h.d., unlike some other issues, like-- i don't know, if a doctor says i have head lice learning a whole bunch about head lice isn't going to make much of a difference. a fine comb and some shampoo will.
- you have head lice? - no, it's an example. - oh, okay. all right, all right. - in fact, the more you learn about a.d.h.d.-- - my cousin had head lice. - yeah, well, i don't. the more you-- - it's hard to get rid of. - the more you see the ways it's affecting your life the way it's showing up in your behaviors, sabotaging your relationships, it's amazing what you start to notice. so managing a.d.h.d. perhaps more than any other disorder is about understanding what it is but also what it is not. that's key. so education is key. did you get 'em? - get what? - nothing. number three! understand your particular flavor. - now, you may be thinking "i wonder what's for lunch. i hope it's pizza!" everyone likes pizza. i like the individual ones. i get the double cheese. - yeah, yeah, but you know what? pizza's like a.d.h.d., 'cause a.d.h.d. is different in each person and everybody likes different kinds of pizza. see, like, i have this really, really good friend of mine. he likes mayonnaise instead of cheese on his pizza. - seriously? - yup. - i find that hard to believe. - no, it's true. - you have a really good friend?
- well, okay it's my wife's friend. - guys! - and you need to basically get your head around the possibility that what you are is something that necessarily you have to figure out. - in fact, everyone seems to have a different combination of symptoms and to varying degrees. now, there are two variations: a.d.d. and a.d.h.d. some people only struggle with the inattention. they don't have the hyperactivity or impulsivity and doctors call this the predominantly inattentive subtype: attention deficit disorder or a.d.d. for short. but it's not just a deficit. sometimes they can hyper-focus just not on the right things or at the right time or for the right amount of time. it's not under their control. others struggle in all three areas. they have the predominantly combined subtype: a.d.h.d., attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. now, men tend to be a.d.h.d.; women tend to be a.d.d., but not always. and this list of symptoms is for children,
but a.d.d. evolves into adulthood. as well, some people are overly emotional; others, not. some people can barely finish a sentence. others are managing but operating well below their potential. and it's very situational. i'm fine at work but a mess at home. so it's very individual. and some symptoms may not be causing you problems. you may be coping by using strategies or by avoiding whole areas of life. so you want to target the challenges that are costing you the most. and if at some point as you move forward, the a.d.h.d. diagnosis no longer seems like a fit for you maybe then consider it might be something else or something as well. - ah, right. yeah, you see, 'cause a.d.h.d. it rarely travels solo. you may also have a learning disorder, anxiety disorder, depression. - and we suffer from higher rates of o.c.d., o.d.d., bipolar disorder addiction, tourette's syndrome, personality disorder. so until science develops that blood test,
always be open to learning more about a.d.h.d. and about yourself and your particular flavor. - and when they figure out how they can make the world work for them and how they can make it so they work for the world the resiliency the brilliance, the hope and the uniqueness of that achievement is something to admire. - number four, bend the world to you. - know what you do well, and do as much of that as you can and know what you don't do well, and find somebody else to do it for you. - say you're a salesperson a great salesperson, but you're terrible at paperwork... there a bit of a problem, maybe? you know, what you might want to do is talk to your boss about having an assistant do the invoices and receipts so you can focus on what you do do well. either way whatever you choose to do, bend the world to you! - number five, chunk it up. - chunk it. use little aliquots of time to get the job done.
don't try and do it all in one sitting. - let's say you're behind in your taxes. - i am? - no, it's an example. - no, i am! - oh, okay, well you're behind in your taxes? - i am! - you're way behind? - yeah! - you want to get started? - i do! - but it's all too much, isn't it? - too much! - it's hours of work days of work... - centuries of work! - so chunk it up. do a small part. can you start with one thing? doesn't matter how small. i mean, the taxes are too much. could you find the pencils? - i could do that! - okay, go find the pencils, maybe the eraser. maybe find your calculator. that's all. just that. could you do that? - i got papers! - okay, great. now a calculator, pencil. lo and behold, it didn't take you ten minutes to do that. it took five minutes. now you could stop or... - calculator, a pencil... - see? or you could keep going, maybe do another small chunk. finding some of the envelopes from the government or finding your checkbook. - i stapled my thumb. - oh, that's okay. or even just practicing your curse words. you just keep going, going, going. number six, take action. does waiting until you feel inspired lead to action?
- rarely. - does taking an action lead to inspiration? - indubitably--tably... in-dubly...in dublin... - often. - quite often, quite often, yes. - you would get them past that sense of, "it could have been, should have, would have, if i would have known," by helping them see what they do have. that's the big thing is always moving forward. - don't wait for inspiration to be cleaning up the piles of newspapers in the den. just start cleaning up. and lo and behold, after five minutes you're seeing a difference. the room looks better. you've uncovered that sandwich you lost last month, and next thing you know, you've done something. you've accomplished something in your day, and you're inspired to do more. - get up off the couch. don't look for the quick fix the quick slogan the, "okay, i'll do that tomorrow." read the book. do the homework. the stakes are high. we're talking about your child's health, and your health, in the case of adults. - you know what? just clean one shelf. clean one window. clean one room. vacuum one room. start your novel. yes, even the creative stuff. you gotta stop waiting for inspiration.
start it. - and don't be surprised if you go, "well, i'll exercise for three minutes," and then it's like "well, i'm here; i'll go for ten," or you get one page of your novel written, and then suddenly you have ideas for the next page and the next and the next. - [with deep british accent] it's momentum, baby! i love it! - that was good. ellen degeneres, right? - yes! - number seven, use doorways to remind you. first, if you have to remember to take something with you tomorrow morning lean it against the front door so you can't leave without it. second, if you have to remember to set the pvr or feed the fish or feed the cat or even feed the fish to the cat, tape a note over the light switch by the front door or right on the front door at eye level or on the doorknob so you cannot miss it. - and then what you do is, you use the door to check as a reminder that you have everything. every day, i walk out the front door, and i just-- i give the once-over. i go, "glasses, wallet keys, ninja darts." - ninja darts? - i have a very dark and mysterious life, rick. - cool! - yeah, it is; it's really cool.
every time i leave an office a dressing room, a restaurant i go through the same thing. it's like, "glasses, keys, phone, ninja. glasses, keys, phone, ninja." people think i'm catholic, you know? - [laughing] you are catholic. - i am catholic. that's right. i forgot my religion. - yeah but he remembered his keys. - oh, oh! that's good. [laughing] - number eight make an entrance. end of a tough day you arrive home, you reach for the front door... - freeze! okay. every actor has to make a great entrance and so do you. who are you gonna be when you come home? a tired, frustrated real estate agent who lost a deal today? or maybe you got the opportunity to be a positive, supporting nurturing father and spouse, huh? can you stop freezing now? - [whispers] my back. [bones cracking] it's worse! worse, worse! [bones cracking] - in order to create a great life story you have to create a great character. who are you? - well, wait a sec. this sounds like i'm being phony, pretending to be someone else, just making it up. - [laughing] oh, how wrong you are,
my young, silly knave, no, no, no. you don't become some imaginary person. you draw upon who you want to be in this situation. i mean, we show different sides of ourselves to people all day long, right? - right. - okay. so what we're suggesting here is that you actually choose-- consciously choose rather than just let a bad day with a difficult client dictate a bad evening with the people you love. - so i become who i want to be or i'd like to be ideally, regardless of how i feel at the moment? - in fact, often despite how you feel. - right. hey, everyone, i'm home! - see? so the next morning, you walk out that front door you become the successful real estate agent you want to be. - all right! i'm a--but i'm a surgeon. oh, what the heck. - not today! - all right! who wants some real estate? number nine, meditate. - i'm a bear with my clients about meditation. the "m" word, i call it. it's simply to pick a focus, and when your mind wanders which it will do and the monkey chatter will go and it's louder when you have a.d.d. you just keep bringing it back to the focus.
and it's like doing push-ups for your attention. both: in through the nose, out through the mouth. - whoa. in through the nose... - you know, i'll mention the "meditation" word. they'll say, "oh, i can't do that. i tried that and it didn't work." and the reason they thought it didn't work was because nobody really told them that the goal of meditation is not to quiet your mind like you're gonna-- you know, "shut up out there." - i should have gone into computer software. that's what i should have done. that's why i'm an idiot. that's why my children are gonna die in poverty. i just hope i'm happy with myself that i've ruined their lives! - where a.d.d. people struggle with it is--well, two ways. they have an ideal in their heads about what that should look like. you know, "i'm going to be "this perfectly still tibetan monk "you know, sitting in meditation for hours in a lotus position with my legs braided and i can't do that." um, it doesn't have to be like that. and when you first start out doing
meditation it can be uncomfortable. so if you start with really tiny increments of time and build muscle that's the way to go at it if you have a.d.d. what i recommend is that people do walking meditation. it's very simple. it doesn't require training with a guru. all you need to do is get out and walk, and your focus instead of being a mantra or a breath or something like that is the feeling of your feet on the floor or on the ground. and as your mind chatters, which it will, and takes you somewhere else your only job is to bring it back to the feeling of your feet on the ground. simple. - as you're doing your walking meditation, you may think of something big you forgot 'cause, hey, you got a.d.h.d. well, if you've got a smart phone, use the notepad function right there or the pocket voice recorder function. - here. - memo to myself: remember to get out the instructions and find out how to use the pocket record function
on this thing. see? [phone ringing] - hello? yup! yeah, he's right here. well, he's workin' right now. he's on tv. oh, hi! they can see us. - oh. [whispers] who is it? - [whispers] i have no idea. - number ten seize small opportunities. okay, every time you get in your car... [imitates car door slamming] before you turn on the engine, you want to get a grip on the steering wheel and allow yourself to get present. you're going to take three deep breaths. [breathing deeply] yes, there's gonna be traffic. now, after about five seconds, you're gonna think "okay, i've got a.d.h.d. that's enough. that's the equivalent of"-- no, no. do the three breaths. [breathing deeply] do this last one with me. come on. [breathing deeply] oxygen to the brain is good.
then start up the car, and away you go. beep, beep! hurry up! move it! not gonna get any greener! will ya come on? number 11, sing, dance, move. - agitated? can't sit still? then don't! put on your favorite band and sing and dance! [polka music] - ooh, yeah! - one of the things we know is that an active, involved, moving a.d.h.d. person is much better with their thinking and much better with their focus. the motivation stays up. all that happens when you begin to move 'cause immediately you dump out dopamine, norepinephrine a little bit of serotonin, and all kinds of other good things that we're just learning about. - plus, it reminds you of what really matters in life: music, dance, fun! both: ole! - ow! ow, my foot. get off my foot. - my bad, my bad. - number 12. my foot, my foot! get off! number 12, don't apologize. - say you write everything down and you make far more reminders
than anyone else: sticky notes all over the place. so what? that's what you do! - if you have to have nine sets of keys-- one in the car one in the trunk one hidden under the barbecue in case you get locked out again-- well, then, so what? don't apologize. that's what you do. - if other people sneer, or they make fun or they think that's funny or they go "oh, man, that is so stupid..." - well... both: tough! - number 13, okay, apologize. - yes, if you screw up apologize. - you mean "when." - yes, when you screw up 'cause you will-- sorry, i screwed up. i should have said "when." but i have a.d.h.d., so... - okay, so here's another thing. always saying, "oh, i have a.d.h.d.," or, "it's my a.d.h.d.," i find people get real tired of that real fast. look, you know it's your a.d.h.d. it really doesn't change anything, right? so use it sparingly. - yeah, taking responsibility means you're a big person. responsibility is not blame. it's not being the fall guy or fall girl or a punching bag or a doormat or anything like that. responsibility is about owning it. like, i made the mistake. i screwed up by backing into your car.
that gives me power to say that. not as much power as my car had hitting your car, but... - can we cut here? - stay tuned for more of a.d.d. and mastering it. patrick mckenna and rick green are back with a follow-up to their first special on attention deficit disorder, and they're giving us a ton of helpful tips and strategies to minimize the challenges and maximize the strengths for those living with the condition. i'm rhea feikin. public television has always been the place to find shows and specials that help you improve the quality of your life. and, you know, your financial contribution to this station right now will provide the necessary resources to produce more programs like this special on a.d.d., programs that can improve our lives and the lives of those we love. when you call the number on your screen and support us at certain membership levels we have some great ways of saying thanks.
i'm thrilled to have with us in the studio rick green and patrick mckenna. thank you so much for being here. - thanks for having us again. - it's always so much fun. you know, your first show was such a success: a.d.d. and loving it. why did you feel the need to do another one: mastering it? - well, everybody who saw the documentary and recognized themselves or someone they loved that they suspected had a.d.h.d. then said, "okay, got it; now what?" and that's what this was all designed for is to get you moving forward. how do you deal with relationships with your life with mastering the a.d.h.d., and recognizing all the ways it's impacting your life? - oh, so that's why you did it and, you know, are there enough post-its in the whole world for you to do another show? - no. - not for rick, no. - no, never. - you know, i want to talk a little bit about the combo because it's really incredible. if you can call and make a pledge of $250, you're gonna get the combo and it is really an amazing thing. and i want to talk about it in a little more detail. of course, it has the a.d.d. and
mastering it dvd, which has bonus material and it also has a.d.d. stole my car keys which is a softcover book. and, rick, it's very funny. - well, what we did was, we took 155 signs, behaviors things that a.d.h.d. adults tend to do. so you'll be going through this going, "oh, that's me. "that's why i have so many parking tickets. "that's why i get so frustrated. "that's why he doesn't seem to look in my eyes when he's talking to me," and so on. so you'll recognize yourself. it's funny. every page is a different one. it's illustrated. and it's just a.d.h.d.-friendly. but this is one of those things where you're just gonna really increase your knowledge and recognize yourself again and again and again. - well, there's so many things in here but not every person has all of them. - no, so it's different in everyone, right? - yeah, it's quite a spectrum, so you'll read some, and you may recognize parents you know or cousins you know someone else, and maybe not-- and then you may see yourself in there. so that's the beauty of it that it's a full-spectrum book. - we're smiling, but it is so much information in here. - yeah. - yeah. - you're also gonna get a three-dvd
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tip number 14, choose the right job. - we had a business based out of new york, a business partner mine and myself. and his cousin was doing our bookkeeping, and he was a very a.d.d. guy and he screwed up our bookkeeping so badly that the state of new york hit us with this $25,000 penalty. i mean, we were just pulling our hair out. what are we gonna do? so i sat down with paul, and i said "you know, you enjoy being a cpa?" and he says, "i hate it. you know, it's crazy details." but he spent his whole life learning to be a cpa. i said, "why don't you become a salesperson for cpa services?" so he got a job with one of the big eight accounting firms selling cpa services which is a hunting thing and tripled his income in the first year, and was no longer screwing up people's books. - the happier the person is-- even though they're burning more candles maybe over-excited overdoing it they're over-committed-- but if they're doing it with a sense of purpose and mission and their loved ones are with them for it
there's nothing better. the brain loves to be used. - okay, you know what you hate to do, but what do you love to do? think about your strengths. where do you soar? see, that's where your fortune lies. if you find a job that matches your temperament and what fascinates you, you'll have a job you love. and if you have a job you love you'll never have to work a day in your life. you'll just do what you love. - number 15, find the right partner. look, i don't care if you're a man or a woman if you're gay or if you're straight, if you're 18 or if you're 80-- - you don't? whoo! promiscuous tramp! look at this guy! - no, it's an example. i mean, i'm speaking about communication-- - got ya. yeah, sorry. - good. okay, start again. uh, look, i don't care who you are. what matters most in life are relationships, right? i mean, right now, if you could transform every relationship in your life and just have it be great, how great would your life be? but what makes great relationships? - great communication! - is it being agreeable with each other all the time?
no, no, no. - great communication? - is it having common interests you can share? no. what makes a great relationship? - great communication! - is it sharing secrets or needing each other or being dependent on each other? no. what makes a great relationship-- - great communication! - it's great communication. - how about listening? - now, a.d.h.d. creates problems with communication. there's so much misinformation out there, your spouse may not understand so communication and, of course, education. - oh, absolutely. happy wife, happy life. - right, and if it's not a wife but a husband, if it's a man, not a woman... - well, i'm pretty sure my wife is a woman. [laughing] why? what did you hear? - number 16, simplify. - de-clutter. put stuff away. give stuff away. sell stuff! - if you live in a world of clutter, your brain is cluttered. simplicity is very important. clean up the mess.
reduce the noise. keep it simple. it makes it important for organizational skills but also in terms of keeping life to a point that's manageable. - take all the clothes that are hanging in your closet and hang them on a temporary rack in the next room. now, every morning you go to the temporary rack. you choose your clothes from there. after you wear them for the day, you wash 'em. and after you wash 'em you hang 'em back up in your closet. after a few weeks, you're always checking your closet first. if you don't find something you like you go to the temporary rack in the other room. you wear it, you wash it you put it into the closet. eventually you'll have enough stuff hanging in your closet you won't need to go to the temporary rack. in that case, take the stuff on the temporary rack, box it, store it give it to a good charity, like, um... the save patrick mckenna fund. [whispers] it's actually his shirt. - this is actually my shirt.
this is my shirt. - clutter is different things to different people. if you have organized clutter, it's not a bad thing 'cause you can find things in the midst of it all. what real problematic clutter is is when you can't find the things you're looking for or when the presence of the clutter itself is distracting. - take a look at magazines that feature beautiful homes like, say, home beautiful huh? notice how simple and clean these homes are? no clutter. - and finally, close the cupboard doors. close the closet doors. close the drawers. this probably drives everyone in your family crazy and it potentially cracks their skulls when you leave a door open and they hit their head on it, which i know is funny for you, but... number 17, start small. oh, god, the whole house is a mess. i'll clean it up. - [laughing] no, no, you won't. no, see, because the whole house is too much. you're gonna give up after a little while. so you can go from one room to one room, just cleaning up a little bit here and there and you can do that for hours, but you won't notice much of an improvement.
- yeah, that's true. if i clean up 10% of the mess in the whole house it doesn't look different. it's not satisfying. but when i clean up one room like i clean up 10% of the house i get it spotless-- it's noticeable. it's rewarding. it's inspiring! - there you go. see, you pick one room the one you're in the most and you tidy it completely so when you're done, you can look around the place and go, "aah! order, neatness, simplicity!" - yeah, but what if it's such a mess that even one room is too much? - well, then you just tidy one corner of the room. - yeah, but what if even that's gonna take days? - well, you can do one shelf just one shelf. you can do that. - well, i guess, but you know, once-- - just clean the room! that's all you gotta do. you know, just maybe just one little thing. and that way when you're done, you can look at it and say to yourself-- - hang on. all right, one shelf and i--i did it! looks good! - see? yeah! you want to do more? - well, why not? it didn't take long for one. - see, you notice how when one person litters, soon everyone does? mess spreads. it's viral. well, so is cleanliness. clean one spot; then watch tidiness spread outwards. - viral neatness. - viral neatness, yeah!
- number 18, exercise. you know, every expert that we've talked to on our website says exercise is good for a.d.h.d. - oh, poo. - i know; i know. exercise, ugh! - regular exercise is important. that will help manage some of the mood regulatory symptoms that sometimes occur. it's been shown to be quite helpful for managing anxiety. so not necessarily climbing a mountain, but doing, you know, 30 minutes of aerobic exercise three to four times a week. that can be quite helpful. - i have just about all my patients on some kind of an exercise program. - that's how i got through my phd years when i was just responsible for so many things at the same time. so i'd go for a walk or a run, and my head was clear, and i just could focus and do it, and in 20 minutes, i would do a much better job than in two hours at home. - okay, here's what you do. find a really expensive fitness club that's, say like, ten blocks from your house, okay? and walk there. but don't go in. and then you walk home briskly... and you get in shape without paying
the membership fees. - there are a variety of martial arts that involve intense self-control but include movement where a.d.h.d. individuals find relief and comfort and, at the same time, can engage in the activity and even excel at it. - tip 19... forgive yourself and others. - children like me grew up with the sense of guilt of always doing things the wrong way and not knowing how to do them right because you weren't told how to change. you were just told that you have to change. you were told not to talk in class not to move in class not to-- uh, to stop fidgeting. and i didn't know how to do that. - i went to a neuropsychologist way back when, and at the completion of the test, he said "you know, you had to have a lot of gray matter "to have made it through life with these deficits
"that i was just looking at, you know the weakness and inattention." and i was feeling really bad and i cried. i was like, "oh, yeah. somebody gets it. i'm not stupid." - some people feel relieved: "oh, yeah, that's me." and, yes, there is an effective intervention, so that's a nice thing to bring together. other people are saying, "oh, my gosh! why didn't i know this earlier?" they get angry, upset. you can have a partner or a parent who feels guilty about, "well, this is my son. if i'd only realized that"-- it doesn't get you anywhere. it's a way of controlling behavior, guilt so you don't need to take it on yourself. - i always say the best cure for stigma and for shame is forgiveness. if you can forgive the fact that you are human, then you can begin to work on what your type of being human is, you know? you're an a.d.d. human, okay? okay. i can live with that. - do i forgive myself? i try to! [laughing] not--i still think i have the-- i still think that i'd like to be perfect at a lot of things a lot of the time.
- number 20, make lists. - so i wanted to do a survey to see what were the issues. and so i had 164 respondents from-- who have partners with a.d.h.d., and i qualified it on several levels. they actually had been diagnosed you know a professional diagnosis. but the top thing, unsurprisingly was organization. that's the biggest challenge. - when someone goes to the store to do a week's worth of grocery shopping, they make a list. easier to have a list and a pad and paper right stuck on the fridge so when you run out of things, you write them down right then. - yeah, and with a.d.h.d., let's be honest, you might need a list if it's only three items but you can also make longer checklists for regular things, like, "here's what we always have to pack for any weekend trip or going to the office." - the school. - right. you can also keep a list of questions to ask your doctor. - yeah, now, see, many women with a.d.h.d., they find their wardrobe is a nightmare. - my wife dresses me. - thank heavens for that. see, they say things like, "nothing matches. nothing is coordinated."
impulse shopping and a tendency to forget mean they could have seven light blue blouses but no matching skirts or pants. - and that's a challenge if you're working in one of those offices where they require you to wear pants or dresses. - [laughing] yeah, so what you do is, you keep a list in your purse of what you have and what you need. - and what colors. number 21, reframe it. - i think the most destructive myth about a.d.h.d./a.d.d. is that it's an illness or disease. i just--i don't see it as an illness or a disease. i see it as a difference in wiring and one that has advantages and disadvantages. and framing it as a pathology causes people-- causes some people to immediately fall into a victim state of mind, which is not particularly useful. it causes other people to give up. - so if they see themselves as defective and the world as dangerous and the future as bleak, and that is one set of people we see then we really have to start to help them understand that that came about for a reason that they're not just a negative person
and that with time and with practice and with the right combination of interventions we think that the world won't look as bleak. - so what we need to do is present it in a way-- in a positive enough way that people can get excited about treatment, that they can get enthusiastic about it that they realize they're shooting for big dreams. - you're not alone and you've got a great life ahead of you, and you just need to be ready to take a little bit longer to get there wherever you're trying to get. - number 22, clarify your goals. - one thing that we all have in common is that we have to have a goal. and a lot of children, teenagers, and adults who have a.d.h.d., they have a difficulty to just project themselves in time. you know, it's always "now." and so you have to find a way that motivation for you is either now or near the now,
like in the next hour. you're gonna have to cut those steps and to have a goal that is like right now or tomorrow or next week but not next year. - try getting in the habit of setting specific goals. create deadlines. put some stakes into the ground, ones that you're sure you can meet finish lines you know you can reach. and as you're planning them, allow that there's gonna be mistakes and breaks, unforeseen obstacles interruptions, distractions. you know, life is not suddenly going to become perfect just 'cause you know where you're going. number 23, choose your distraction. - i have one boy that i was able to follow from four until he was in his 20s. a very good boy. he even came to see me on his own. but he always needed something to do with his hands. so i think that's a mistake. people say, "stop fiddling," but he really-- he'd always be making a puzzle while he was chatting to me, and that way, i knew he was really focused. - you know what? there's compelling evidence that people with a.d.h.d.
actually do study better with music on or a tv going in the background. why? does it arouse the brain so the filters reach a sufficient level of functioning? how should i know? i don't even know what that means. i don't. i just know it works. and there's strong evidence that baroque classical music stimulates both halves of the brain. and that helps with learning. yeah, i know; i know. you like thrash metal. trust me. try the baroque. finally, a lot of a.d.d.-ers report success with white-noise generators to help them focus at work. of course, to an a.d.d.-er most people in our lives are white noise generators. [laughing] not you, though, honey! not you! - number 24, it's your experiment. - now, of course all these strategies and tools have to be part of a bigger plan. you have to want to develop a real plan of attack with clear goals. it has to be holistic, covering everything. and that's where working with a doctor is key. and one part of the treatment plan that seems to be very effective, especially for many adults is medication. - medication can help a lot in the majority of cases
but i don't think it is enough for any adults or children or a teenager with a.d.h.d. - you start with the medication, but then you start building in skill packages around that. and being able to focus your attention allows you to learn some of the adaptations that you need to do to be successful. - so the pills don't give you any skills, but they open the door to start to develop skills that you've already got, to improve on them or develop skills you've not had. - one of the things about a.d.d. is that treating patients over the years-- and i've probably seen more adults than anybody alive maybe, and followed them-- is that they don't raise their dose. everybody was always afraid that they were going to get addicted and would they want to increase their dose? well, the fact is, their dose goes down over time. - every patient with a.d.h.d. can engage in a process of discovering the things that are coping mechanisms
that will work for him or her, and that process is absolutely essential and very effectivein helping them move away from impairment. - number 25, list your strengths. - i have a group of people in a conference, and i'll say, "okay, i give you two minutes to write all of the strengths, all of the talents that you know you have." and then i'll give them 30 seconds to write all of the weaknesses that they know they have. and their weakness list-- although they've had you know, quite a bit more time for the strength list, the weakness list is so much longer. so i need to help them identify that they do have some strengths and there are some things that they're very good at. - if you're good at something, people will overlook all the crap that you're no good at because it doesn't really matter. - what's going to have you conquer your weaknesses? - ninja darts. - your strengths. - your strengths. - strengths. - your strengths will help you conquer your-- you know, tonight when you get home,
take a pen and paper and write down your strengths, things that people like about you your positive traits skills you have, admirable qualities. - sometimes what we do is, we have people write down their strengths on a card and keep it in their pocket so that whenever they're feeling overwhelmed, they pull out the card: "remember, you are..." and it's ding, ding, ding, ding. - and don't use "but." avoid the "but, but, but..." - i can be very enthusiastic but only when-- - eh! no "but"! - remember, embedded in impulsivity is a positive which is creativity. you can't be creative if you're not a little bit dis-inhibited, if you're not a little bit impulsive. - and remember, sometimes the flip side of a downside can be your upside. - aah. what? - the flipside of one of your downsides can be your upside. - right. don't get it. - no? number 26, journal.
- journaling. every morning, i take five minutes, and i write down what i did the day before, what happened, how i felt. i've been doing it for over 20 years. it's hugely beneficial for the memory. you know, and reading something that had me worried and sick over a year ago, now it just seems like so "whatever!" it puts today's crap into perspective. so i journal about my life every day! - i do too. - you journal about my life? - yes, every day i journal about your life, but i have to make a lot of it up 'cause i don't really know so, for example, yesterday you were in antarctica. - i was? - yes, and you were attacked by penguins. - am i okay? - yes, you pulled out your ninja darts! - oh, see? i'm a thinker. cool. 27! - tomorrow, lady gaga. - i'm seeing her or i am her? - um... turn off the tube. think about it. what do most of us do when we arrive home and we're beat we're tired, depressed, upset? - turn on the tv. - exactly. and does it get us energized or happy? does it solve the problems that are bugging us? - no. - no. - no, it doesn't. you know, i know this sounds bad from a couple guys
who make their living in tv, but actually a study showed that for every hour of television you watch, it lowers your personal happiness by 3%. - so watch-- well, just watch less. watch one hour less, just one hour, and spend that time reading, tidying tidying one room going for a bit of fresh air or just calling someone you're madly in love with, unless there's a restraining order. - you have a very interesting life, don't you? - well... - i should journal it. - no. - i'm gonna journal your life. - let's move on! - i'm journaling it in my head right now. - okay. number 28. that's disgusting, you pig! - it's your life. - i know. number 28, laugh! - i know a lot of adults who have a.d.h.d. if they didn't know how to laugh about themselves they would be depressed. - you know, there's only about 1 in 100 people who can laugh at themselves and admit their mistakes and you know what we call people like that? - roy? - powerful. - powerful! - powerful. we call those people powerful. being able to laugh at yourself gives you freedom. you become bullet-proof. if you mess up and someone says, "what are you, an idiot?"
i go, "i know! "i can't believe i did it either! "one time i parked my car in the mall! in the mall! do that!" - you know, having a sense of humor--big, big thing. humor is a lifesaver a lifesaver. so that's why i respect the work you're doing. - number 29, only one master schedule. - now, as my lovely wife says so often, "it has to go on the calendar." a.d.h.d. people tend to be visual learners and tactile learners so family stuff can be done in blue ink and the work stuff in green ink, the kids' stuff in black and the doctor appointments in red whatever you like to use. but only one calendar, okay? let's demonstrate this by improvising a scene, you know? like, okay, let's say we're a married couple. - okay. - better yet, father-son. - fa--i'll be the father. - i'll be the son. - okay, typical day, very natural. "hi, son!" - yo, dad, yo, dad what's happenin', da-ad? - well, son, your mother and i have been talking, and we think we should only have one agenda... - whoa!
- one master calendar for the family. if we have one place for all of our appointments, due dates, events, and they're all listed for the whole family we won't double-book ourselves. - why would we? - you know, rather than one agenda on the fridge and one in the den and one at the cottage and one on everyone's smart phones and so on. - yo, yo, dad! that's a good idea! you know, i got a program-- software program that will link up all our phones and calendars and put 'em all in one thing and just update everything! - well, that's great, son! i'm so proud of you! - i guess i always use a day planner or a calendar. now i actually have a blackberry which is much more helpful 'cause i will forget to do silly, mundane things like pick up my dry cleaning, so-- and that's why i forget them because, to me they're not interesting. you know, and the a.d.h.d. brain wants to be stimulated and doing things and be in the thick of things. - it would be a better scene, actually
if we'd had some conflict. - yeah, it would have been a better scene with-- what kind of conflict? - well, conflict's easy to find. see? - [moaning] oh, yeah, that's great. - that went better. yeah, it felt better. - can we take a break for a sec? - stay tuned for more great tips on mastering a.d.d. i'm rhea feikin. now, if you have a family member, a friend, or a colleague who has a.d.d., or if you have a.d.d. yourself this special is hopefully giving you both insight and the tools that will help you make a big difference in your life. and we hope that you're gonna take the time right now to call in and financially support the terrific shows and specials that public television brings you throughout the year programs like a.d.d. and mastering it. please call this station right now. the number's on your screen. it's really easy to do. and you can make the most generous financial contribution that you can which will mean a lot to us and a lot to you in the future because it just means more programming. announcer: support public television at the $75 level
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my life would look very different today." i got over that eventually and got on with, "okay, what do i do now?" and i think that's a standard reaction for everyone. it's like, "okay what can i do about this?" the neat thing about a.d.h.d.-- and doctors who work in this field have told us--is there is so much that can be done. that's why they actually chose to get into a.d.h.d. because it was miraculous the turnaround that's possible. but when you don't know what's going on, when you think you're weak-willed or you're just struggling with the depression that has come from a life of struggling, you don't have a chance. once you get this and understand what's going on-- "okay, i've got power now." i've watched my son. he would've dropped out. he would've dropped out of high school and he would've dropped out of university twice, and--but we knew what was going on, and he got back on and graduated. he's an engineer a mechatronic engineer whatever that is. - [chuckles] well, so it's-- it means a lot to you, and so you know how much it means to so many of our viewers. - yeah, and i know the stigma that's involved and the fear. this--part of the thing-- the book-- reason we wrote this book, the 155 surprising ways that a.d.--adult attention deficit disorder
affects your life," is because everybody thinks it's only about inattention. so we really put together here-- open her up and pick one here. - okay, okay. - pick one and read it. - "contract killer." what does that mean? - okay, so "contract killer," we start with someone saying "i'm not stupid, but paper makes me feel like i am." it's--when i'm doing paperwork it's like kryptonite. i then share a little embarrassing story about myself, which you'll enjoy and then dr. jain takes you through the neurology, the science, and what you can do about it. and every page is a different-- you know, why you have so many parking tickets, why you're very charismatic, or why you're this why you're-- so you start to recognize yourself, and you see, okay, some of these are strengths, some of these are weaknesses and some of them could be a weakness or a strength here. - and of course, the book is part of the $250 combo which i want to talk to you about because it's absolutely incredible. this $250 combo has the a.d.d. and mastering it dvd. of course, that's the program that you're watching. and the a.d.d. stole my car keys softcover book.
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"well, he's great at video games. "he doesn't have a.d.h.d. he can sit for hours doing video games." right. certain areas, we can soar. i mean, i've written and produced 700 episodes of television right, you know, but-- - but what can't you do? - my taxes. my taxes are always late every year, late, late, late. so this is terrific. it gives you also all of the-- there's 13 different things that we address that will stop you from getting a-- can stop you from a getting proper diagnosis, and we show you how to overcome each one. and the last one living with a.d.h.d. i'll let patrick talk a bit about that because it's--him and his wife are featured in that heavily and they talk about their relationship. but this damages or affects and can sabotage the partner just as much as the person with a.d.h.d. - there's more in this combo and we're gonna get to it, including the pre-diagnosis toolkit and the two-month subscription to the totally a.d.d. website. but right now, what i'm asking you to do is please go to the phone and make the best pledge that you can. be a part of this wonderful thing
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got me in all sorts of trouble and physical accidents and things like this. so i always sort of knew but having that official diagnosis changed everything. - well, you know we've been talking about this $250 combo, and we've told you about a lot of the things that are in it but we have not really discussed this pre-diagnosis workbook, which i know that you did with your wife so i want you to tell us about it. - well, this is key, really, because it's as simple as can be, and it's 18 questions that kind of give you an idea whether you are indeed a.d.d. or you just have a very stressful time in your life, and you just feel overwhelmed. and people confuse the two oftentimes even though depression can be diagnosed as a.d.d. and so on and back and forth. so this kind of gives you an idea of where you stand. and then you can take this information you go to your doctor, and you go "you know, i filled this out and i really think this is me, and i really need some help." and oftentimes, doctors don't have the information either, so the more education you have the better armed you are that's better for everyone. - and this was something you did with your wife. - it's always best to do it with a partner because you can't be as clean about yourself as you'd like to be,
and your spouse can certainly be as honest and just shake their head in shame at the lies you try. - all of this, of course is part of that $250 combo. i hope that you're thinking about going to the phone and making a pledge and making sure that you have all of the components that are in the combo because every single one of them does something a little bit different and gives you more and more information. you got to be armed, right? - absolutely; more information is always good. - all right, please stay tuned for the conclusion of a.d.d. and mastering it, and i hope that when we come back the next time, we're gonna hear from you. [upbeat instrumental music] ♪ ♪ - a.d.d. and mastering it: tip number 30, don't trust feelings of overwhelm. - yes, we all feel overwhelmed a.d.d. folks far more often than anyone else.
but your feelings can be fickle. see, they depend on what you believe and most of what you think are facts or truths are actually just beliefs. - okay, look. - okay. here we go. over 2,000 bits of toys and trucks and toys and cars and walls and roofs! now, how long do you think it'll take to sort these into their four separate categories? - oh, um... forever. - no, it's gonna be, like, easily less than half an hour, okay? - really? - yeah, yeah. oh, absolutely. what you gotta start doing is start separating. and we'll see what happens. you do it in chunks. - chunks. - okay? and we're gonna start with the trucks and cars. - cars and trucks. trucks and cars. well, there you go! - okay. - now the walls and roofs. - walls and roofs. - oh, we're halfway done. - okay. and now the people?
- people? hello, people. people. - little tiny people into the box. just like a subdivision. - people, pay attention. work with us, people. - little boxes, little people. - so all right. - there we go, okay. and now, finally... - the bits? - all the little bits. how long did that take? - a lot less than a half hour. - a lot less than a half hour. you see? yes! you're feeling overwhelmed? just do it! - you know, that would be a great slogan for a running shoe. - feeling overwhelmed? - yeah. number 31, build a team. - not trying to do it all yourself and that's the key too. you know, like, we're a team. who else is on your team? how can we get the people around you to be more understanding if you blow it and not keep raking you over the coals? - people always think the first step is therapy. and i say, well, you know, therapy is useful, as long as the therapist understands a.d.h.d. and doesn't make the person feel more helpless
and not know how to change these things 'cause when you put someone's back up against the wall and just say, "change," and they've already been trying to change their whole life that's not helpful. so often what i'll recommend is a professional organizer. - stop trying to solve it all on your own. hire or work with people who can cover your weak areas, and then consider getting some coaching. - coaches, i think are-- it's someone who usually has a.d.h.d. themselves, has learned something about how to manage it and is prepared in a very hands-on kind of way to teach people the skills that they have learned often based on their personal experience. so it's like going to a sage or someone who, you know who is wise or has some kind of understanding about it. and i guess our patients could learn all that stuff themselves, but why would they want to go through 20 years of living with a condition when they can hire someone who can teach them all that in three or four months? it just makes sense to me to do that. - so i'll start usually
by looking at what their objectives are. what is it that they want to achieve? and we'll look at the challenges, but i don't necessarily want to put all the emphasis on the challenges. they've been living their challenges for years. ideally you want to-- i work with my clients towards something, instead of just away from something. and in doing that, we look at the obstacles that happen along the way, and we work on the obstacles along the way, but always with our mind or our eyes on the bigger goal. - number 32, keep it together. - okay, we know what you're thinking: "be strong!" no, this is about keeping your stuff together. put a paper shredder right next to where you keep your mail. you arrive home; you go, "okay, uh, junk food coupon?" - [imitates shredder whirring] - junk food coupon. - [imitates shredder whirring] - bill. junk food coupon. - [imitates shredder whirring] - bill. see, the bills go right over here next to the shelf next to the checkbook. the junk food coupons? they go right into the shredder. - or vice versa, if you don't have the money to pay the bills. - yeah, that's a very good point. we just-- - [imitates shredder whirring]
you know if you master the habit of keeping things together you will be invincible to everything. - [laughing] except ninja darts. - number 33, get real about time. - i often say, "in a.d.d., there are two times: now and not now." and so not until "not now" becomes "almost now" do you actually get around to doing it, and you're essentially self-medicating with adrenaline in a panic. and adrenaline is very similar by the way to stimulant medication. - most humans don't read time all that well, but people with a.d.h.d. are particularly bad. they try to cram in too much in too little time. [cards fluttering] - oh, i have a dentist appointment at 9:00. it's a 15-minute drive. i should stop practicing at 8:45. - yeah, and how long does it take for you to find your keys? - oh, right. - and your wallet? and your jacket? - oh, yeah. - yeah, and your phone. and then you gotta brush your teeth, of course. and you gotta get your shoes on. and you gotta lock the door. and you gotta go out to the car. you gotta start the car. then you gotta drive downtown. then you gotta get into the building, get in the elevator. you gotta wait for the elevator,
and you go up in the elevator. you gotta make a pit stop at the bathroom, and not to mention the traffic jam you were in. - yeah, i should stop practicing at, like, 8:15. - there you go. - yeah, yeah. but, okay, wait a sec. what if i arrive way too early? - well, then you have your cards. - oh, yeah. okay, great. 34. number 34, express gratitude. gratitude. even when you don't feel particularly grateful. in fact, especially when you don't feel grateful. one study showed that writing out just five things you're grateful for about your life once a week increases your level of happiness by 30%, and it sustains that level for quite a long time, whereas another study showed that winning the lottery increases happiness by about 5%. - really? - yup. - wow! well, i'm grateful i didn't buy a lottery ticket then. - and i'm grateful i did and i bought a ticket that was a winner! - wow! that's... - yeah, i won. yeah, i won two free tickets. - whoa, that's--that's, like four times as many chances.
- yeah. - number 35! - create a bigger context. when my doctor asked me the question "when did you last feel well?" and you say, "i've never felt well, "that i've never really felt happy "that i've compared myself to other people "and i've never really felt the same, "when i was part of a fringe group "everywhere i went "somebody that has real difficulty living my life, "the fact that i live in misery and pain all the time. well, sure, lots of people live like me, don't they?" no, they don't. this is different. you're different. and the fact is until you accept this particular reality that there's something we can do, you're going to live this life of misery. but here's the bigger factor: you're doing this for your kid. you don't need your kid living your life. and if you've been diagnosed because you look at your kid and see something inside of them then you got a chance to make a difference
for that one child who is going to live with your life. and that's the reason why you're going to look after yourself. - okay, look mastering your a.d.h.d. is going to be a huge challenge. it just is. so it really helps if you're doing it for more than just yourself. you're doing it for those who love you, those around you or those who you're going to fall in love with eventually. - you ever notice how many champion athletes thank their parents, coaches spouses, friends, fans, god, mentors, teachers, even a sibling who had a severe disability? they say things like "they kept me going when i wanted to give up." - well, remember terry fox right? motivation, reasons, creating a bigger context. - and finally, 36. - don't overdo the good habits. ah, yes, there's the rub. you see, a.d.h.d. people we tend to be great at starting things. we're enthusiastic excited by the novelty and then we're terrible at finishing. we lose interest. so the first time you try any one
of these strategies, it may not work. so you'll just jump to the next one and the next one and the next-- look, you really gotta give each one time to work. - if you were teaching a child to ski you'd make sure that they succeeded on the green slopes before you graduate them to the blue slopes and the blacks and the double-blacks. and we do the same thing in terms of behavioral interventions with kids. - we don't rush into "oh, feel better now," because that doesn't work. you know, what we try to understand is how do they get to see who they are and themselves and the world and their future? but it has to be a long view. it's not--we keep saying this isn't a sprint; it's a marathon. - i mean, all of these they're good tools. they're great strategies but pick one at a time. pick one, do that one, make it a habit, and then add another. maybe-- - yeah, and see, if you do one a week that's 52 in a year. that's 52 new habits. that's a very different you. - for one thing, you're now a person who can stick with something for a whole week. - there you go! - and we're done! - we're done!
- done! and we're finished... - 12 seconds. 12 seconds early. - oh. - so...um... - fill. - avoid trans fats i think is good. - yeah. - it's not an a.d.h.d. thing but it's a good life lesson right there, okay. - there you go. done! - next time, let's work with a script. - yeah, that'd be great. - that would be so good. - where do we get scripts? - they make them up. - do they? oh, yeah, okay, great. - we hope that you've enjoyed this informative, enlightening and funny special about a.d.d. and a.d.h.d. and we hope that all of these tips from patrick and rick are gonna be a great help to you or someone you love. and we also hope that you're gonna take the time in this last intermission to call in and support not only this special but all the shows that you watch and enjoy on public television. and, you know, we want to talk about this $250 combo, because there is so much information, it's kind of hard to assimilate it all just by watching the show.
so you really need all of these tools: the dvd of the show, a.d.d. and mastering it, the a.d.d. stole my car keys softcover book. you're also gonna receive a three-dvd set titled the comprehensive guide to a.d.h.d., parts one, two, and three. and in addition, you're gonna get a pre-diagnosis toolkit and a two-month subscription to totally a.d.d. website. now, there are a lot of things in here. it's hard, i'm sure, for you to say what's the most important. - the most important thing in here is that the material is-- there's a couple of things. one is it's a.d.h.d.-friendly. it's enjoyable to watch. second, it's accurate. it's reliable. i know it's two comedians in front of the camera a lot of the time, but it is actually-- you're gonna hear from 24 of the top experts who've written, between them dozens of books and have really dealt with tens of thousands of adults with a.d.h.d. so they're--you're drawing on a wealth of experience here that you're not gonna get anywhere else because we got the best of the best together,
so that's really powerful. and it's broken down in a way that i could understand it for myself that patrick could understand it so that you could understand it. there's stuff out there that you're just gonna listen to and go, "huh?" and there's stuff out there that is so boring. i mean, a woman just recently-- who helped us with some of the printing of this said her son would not look at any of the dvds she bought on a.d.h.d. for him, and she bought a lot. sent her this-- and she--he watched it. he said, "thanks, mom," and he's now taking on his a.d.h.d.--transformed. - oh, that is an incredible story. - yeah, it--you're not gonna learn this stuff if it's dry, if it's boring. we're funny people very often. every comedian i know tells me "yeah, my kids are a.d.-- i probably am, or my dad was," or whatever. so yeah, we wanted it to be entertaining but we wanted what matters. this is what matters to get you going. - this is really is what matters and it's really yours when you make that call and make that pledge of $250 so please call the number on your screen now and help financially support the shows and the specials that you watch and that you love
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it was written by host rick green and dr. jain, the a.d.h.d. expert who you've seen in the documentary. now, this book reveals the surprising ways adult a.d.d. affects your life and offers proven strategies you can use to master the challenges of your particular type of a.d.d. we welcome your contribution in any amount. please ask about this station's basic membership level when you call the number on your screen. now let's go back to rhea. - patrick, after you were diagnosed you started taking medication, right? - absolutely, yeah. - were you afraid that maybe you wouldn't be funny? - it was certainly a concern. i hear that a lot. people think, "will it change me to the degree?" and what i respond to-- 'cause what it did for me was, when you're in a zone and everything's going great and for instance when a comedian-- when you're just--everything's rippling--hilariously funny, you can stay in that zone longer. it doesn't make you less funny. it keeps you able to focus on what is powerful and working for you. so when i'm writing, for instance i can stay in that zone and be more productive as opposed to seeing something shiny and going off, and i'm lost. and it's really hard to ever come back to that moment again.
so it doesn't do that. it actually empowers you to be the best you. - and, you know, i'm sure that people have come up to you and said lots of things. do you remember something that maybe touched you a lot? - one that stuck out was we were doing a show and an 80-year-old man came backstage afterwards. and he said, "i had no idea that i had a.d.h.d. and this is who i was." and the tears rolling down his face that-- of the life that he led to this point, not knowing who he really was in this world, why he was being related to as he was, the labels he was living up to that weren't put on by himself. he didn't create those. other people gave them to him. he's 80 years old, and he's now celebrating life as--moving forward. he'd never completed a book in his life. he had never finished reading a book. the first time was now that he knew who he was, and he went and he talked to the right people, and with him in particular he followed up with medication. and watching a life change at any time-- it was magic to watch. he was upset with the life he didn't have but he was thrilled with the life he was living right now
because it's never too late to really realize how fantastic you are, because it's in there. and i mean, children who oftentimes, are-- they're living this burden. and the parents are shaking their head with this unfortunate situation, not recognizing that it's genetic, and it probably came from one of these parents. and that's something we discuss in the history dvd is that it is genetic and where the neurology comes from. so a parent can take some responsibility too because they're setting standards and morals for their child, and then that's how i live the life. "i don't have to admit that i have this. my father never did, and he seems to be okay." you don't have to live that same life. you can help your child. if you're not gonna do it for yourself do it for your children. and in doing so, i know you'll want to do it for yourself. and that's where the history comes in that you recognize you're not alone and you've never been alone. there's always been this throughout history that there's this type of mind-set, a way of looking at life. and it's exciting. it doesn't have to be a burden. - the answers for you are here and they're in that $250 combo
because it includes everything: the a.d.d. and mastering it dvd with the--bonus material is in it; the a.d.d. stole my car keys softcover book which is definitely amusing but has so much information in it. you're also gonna receive a three-dvd set titled the comprehensive guide to a.d.h.d., parts one, two, and three. and in addition, you're gonna get a pre-diagnosis toolkit plus a two-month subscription to the totally a.d.d. website. just talk a little bit about this for me. - oh, this one is a fant-- this is the bonus package that you get. this is the three-dvd set of what is a.d.h.d.? 'cause a lot of people want to know what the difference is between a.d.d. and a.d.h.d. we go into the history of that and how it fits into the lifecycle that we've all been in. prior to 1975, it was known as a minimal brain disorder. i mean, there's been so many labels on this thing but how do you fit into that and what's the shame and stigmas that go into that? so there's loads of history in that. the second dvd is embracing the
diagnosis. once you have that diagnosis and now you know who the new you can be embracing it all and bending the world to fit you is so much easier once you know that and you're confident with that. the third dvd is living with the a.d.h.d. and that's for the spouses and the people you work with and your children and your parents to understand what it is and how they fit into that picture, how they trigger emotions in you and your response to that. the responsibilities they put on you that you-- they say, "change; would you change, please? just fix yourself." you--we don't know what we're doing wrong. we don't know how to fix that. so that's the communication that starts to change between couples, and any relationship is so much stronger from this. it's the most powerful three hours i think you'll find in a long, long time of a life that you've lived struggling day-to-day. - well, i don't think we can tell you any more clearly that this $250 package has something in it that's gonna speak to you personally. please call us right now at the number on your screen. ask the operator about putting your contribution
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right now. rhea? - this is your last chance to support this special, so please help us bring you many more programs like it in the months and the years ahead by calling the number on your screen and become a supporting member of this station. and i want to talk quickly with you, rick-- not quickly, slowly. - no, hey, i've got a.d.h.d. that could go all day, so... - we're gonna talk about this $250 combo. this is the last time we get a chance to really talk about it in-depth. so first of all, of course, we have the a.d.d. and mastering it dvd, but it has bonus material, right? - it has bonus material, but there are those 36 tips, and you can look at it again and again and again whenever you want. that's what i love about that. - right, and then we have a.d.d. stole my car keys the softcover book. did you have a good time writing this? - it was a great book to write because i'm working with an expert in a.d.h.d. who's actually done research in a.d.h.d. and has seen hundreds of patients, thousands of patients over the years. so the book's entertaining and lively but it's so full of stuff where people go,
"i never thought that was my a.d.h.d. but, wow, that explains certain things." - so not only do you identify certain characteristics, but you talk about how to do something about them. - yeah, here's how you can master it. here's what you can do about it. and some of these things-- for example, talking a lot-- may not be great, but what if you become a disc jockey? what if you become an auctioneer or an actor? so that's--that's the strength of this is not only seeing how it's showing up in your life but those are strengths that you've kind of dismissed. - right. the three-dvd set-- tell us about that. - okay, so you've just sn an hour-long program called a.d.d. and mastering it. here, with bonus material, it's an hour--over an hour. this is--the first one is what is a.d.h.d.? and with the bonus material, it's over an hour, and it delves into the symptoms, the history of it, the neurology and the science behind it, and how it evolves into adulthood how it changes. so you'll see it does not look different in everybody-- or not the same in anybody and it transforms as you move into adulthood.
then embracing the diagnosis-- the number one thing we heard from people is, "how do i know for sure? how do i get a diagnosis?" it's the hardest thing to do and we go through 13 roadblocks that are-- finding a doctor who knows what they're talking about the fact that there are so many different symptoms and so on. we take you through all of the roadblocks, and we show you how to get them out of the way. and the final one, living with a.d.h.d. is really about the struggle you have, because your life is given by your relationships. if you have great relationships, you have a great life. and people who marry an a.d.d.-er start out with an exciting, fun relationship, and the suddenly all the money's gone or he's been fired for the third time, or whatever. and then you're in trouble. understanding what this is-- so this a relief for the people around you as well as yourself. and, again, tools and strategies to move it forward. - all right, one more thing, that pre-diagnosis workbook, which i find fascinating. - me too. it's--this was created by the world health organization. in fact, one of the experts who created this is lenard adler who's in a number of the dvds that we've done. and this is just 18 questions that
are gonna tease out whether or not this could well be a.d.h.d. - read a couple of the questions, would you? - okay, yeah they're very simple. there's 18 of them and you get to say whether it's never, rarely sometimes, often, or very often. - just give us an example. - "how often do you have difficulty "getting tasks in order when you have to do a task that requires organization?" "how often do you have problems remembering appointments or obligations?" and so it'll take you through things where you've got lots started but nothing finished great ideas but never completing them, sometimes overwhelmed, things like spending--you know what you'll see in all these is the ways it could show up. you can spend half a day getting organized. - all right, tell us about the subscription to the totally a.d.d. website. - well, there's over 22,000 members to the website and this will connect you with them. we've developed what's called "the insider," these kind of special members who have access to not only discounts on courses and webinars and all kinds of books and so on but also allows you to connect with 22,000 other adults around the world, actually who have
a.d.h.d. and you're gonna find people who are going through all the stuff you thought was just you just your life just your weaknesses just your faults or just the annoying habits of that person you live with the craziness of "what were they thinking?" it's everywhere. 1 in 25 adults have this. - wow. - and there's 22,000 of them on the website. - again, i want to remind you, at the $250 level, you are gonna get all of these things. i have one question i want to ask you. - sure. - what is the most important thing you want our viewers to take away from this program? - that's a great question. here's what i want you to take away. there's nothing wrong with you. you're at the end of a spectrum. you know really tall people? they're at the end of the height spectrum. if they try and go do gymnastics they're gonna struggle. if someone hands them a basketball they're gonna do really well. so you're at the end of a spectrum. there's nothing to be ashamed of. find out who you are and make it work for you. and when you make it work for you you get a life you love, and your kids don't have to live the life you lived. they don't have to struggle the way you did,
and i don't want them to do that. and i watched my son struggle, and now i watch my son succeed. that's what i want. - okay, well said. - thank you. - let's go over to tony now. - we are grateful for your support of this station and all the programs and services that we provide but the important thing to remember is that we could never do it without your help. so i hope you're on your way to the phone to make as generous a pledge as you can. maybe consider a $75 pledge, and we'll send you the a.d.d. and mastering it dvd with the bonus material that you didn't see during the broadcast. if you make a pledge at the $90 level we'll send you the a.d.d. stole my car keys softcover book. but please take a moment now to become a member or to renew your membership to this public television station. viewers who become members are one of our greatest resources. it doesn't matter how much you give. what matters is a call with your contribution of any amount. rhea? - this is your last opportunity to weigh in for more specials like a.d.d. and mastering it, so please call now to become a member of this station.
i think that you both are just amazing not only all the work you've done, but to share your personal stories. it means a great deal, i think not only to me but to all of our viewers. - thank you. you know, we had fun doing this, and we live this stuff so i think that's part of it for us has been the pleasure of it. - and just sharing our experiences and realizing how many people are sharing them with us. it's a wonderful opportunity. - well, i think everybody who watches has a lot to thank you for and i don't think this is the last we're gonna see of you guys. - probably not, hopefully not, because this is a marathon as somebody said. - right. thank you so much, our special guests rick green and patrick mckenna. and thanks to everyone who supported this station during this just terrific program. [upbeat instrumental music] ♪ ♪